(An excerpt from the seminar “10 Barriers to Transformation for Rumi”)
It can be said that a person who is truly on the path of growth and transformation embodies the following ten characteristics in their actions and character:
One: They are not under the illusion of perfection or free from the need to learn and reflect. Rather, they are always engaged in critique, inquiry, and learning.
Two: They do not resort to ignorant or pain-inducing solutions to their problems. Instead, they strive to understand issues accurately and choose thoughtful, constructive approaches.
Three: They do not mistake techniques and exercises for wisdom and insight. They do not content themselves with tools and affirmations in place of true awareness and understanding.
Four: They seek joy and fulfillment in the flourishing of their inner being. They turn their eyes away from people, circumstances, and objects as sources of happiness.
Five: They do not tie their worth or significance to others’ judgments. They do not seek validation or value from others.
Six: They know their strengths and weaknesses well and, instead of self-deception or avoidance, they consistently work on their self-improvement.
Seven: Rather than procrastinating and postponing, their life is a continuous flow of effort toward growth and excellence.
Eight: They do not see themselves as all-knowing or self-sufficient. With humility, they draw upon the wisdom and expertise of others to nurture their own flourishing.
Nine: They are serious and persistent. No obstacle can divert them from their desire and pursuit.
Ten: Unlike most people, in every relationship, rather than seeking to show off or assert themselves, they are eager to listen, ask, and learn.
